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kingfreddys
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 Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 5:37 am Post subject: nlp for getting a girl back |
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| I almost said winning a girl back, but that's bad framing. anyway, I love a girl, she loves me. We've had issues, and we make eachother upset. I broke us up, I want back, she doesn't(yet, she wants more days or weeks of alone time). Typical. Do you think SS will be my main tool to get her back? how long do you think it'll be until i can utilize this style? |
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Chief
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| Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 9:44 am Post subject: Re: nlp for getting a girl back |
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| kingfreddys wrote: | | anyway, I love a girl, she loves me. |
By that do you really mean "oneitis?" |
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kingfreddys
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| yeah. I know there are others, I just don't want to waste the time to find another meditating metaphysical kind-hearted hot and artful women. I believe no matter who I end up with, the same problems will be there. Being a meditator, a cultivator, I believe that if a couple with problems finds themselves in bliss with each other, you'll have grown more than years worth of meditation. |
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Grape
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| Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 6:28 pm Post subject: |
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| kingfreddys wrote: | | yeah. I know there are others, I just don't want to waste the time to find another meditating metaphysical kind-hearted hot and artful women. I believe no matter who I end up with, the same problems will be there. Being a meditator, a cultivator, I believe that if a couple with problems finds themselves in bliss with each other, you'll have grown more than years worth of meditation. |
Good luck if you think you need to "talk about your relationship" with her.
When in such a state of a relationship you should focus on how much you mean to her, whether it's good or bad. (love or hate)
Hate can very easily be turned into love.
You just have to make her feel as if you are a big part of her life.
You probably already know how to do this.
And then once she realizes this you need to remind her of her feeling of "love".
And then anchor it to yourself.
It's not that hard..
Personally, I think relationships are great for the ride. I don't really expect anything to last or end. It's unpredictable. But man do I have fun while the relationship lasts.
Also, MOST, not all, people who are good at seducing the other sex are single until around the "marrying age".
Hope this helps,
Grape. |
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Chief
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| kingfreddys wrote: | | yeah. I know there are others, I just don't want to waste the time to find another meditating metaphysical kind-hearted hot and artful women. I believe no matter who I end up with, the same problems will be there. Being a meditator, a cultivator, I believe that if a couple with problems finds themselves in bliss with each other, you'll have grown more than years worth of meditation. |
1. That doesn't sound like a waste of time at all.
2. If you're REALLY a person who practices meditation, you should know the difference between obsessive attachment and all the great-sounding excuses you're making. You can't bullshit me on this one. I'm a fucking Buddhist lol. |
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fsidontknow
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| dont try to fix broken things, just start over with new girls and learn from the mistakes you made |
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Grape
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| fsidontknow wrote: | | dont try to fix broken things, just start over with new girls and learn from the mistakes you made |
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Sometimes we want to fix broken things. |
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Devious
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IMO, if this girl really is that special, she will be worth waiting for, no?
What I mean to say is, give her the time and space she asks for and make yourself scarce for awhile even after she decides she's ready to talk again. Maybe a long time--a year or more. You don't have to ignore her completely, just try to stay out of the friends zone (opt for the acquaintance zone instead).
What I've noticed about LTRs I've been in is that even though you will harbor some resentment towards your ex (or them towards you), after awhile you'll be left with just the good memories. You need this to happen before you try to seduce her again.
Further, the other posters have a great point. There are too many other women of quality out there for you to get hung up on this one.
So honestly, my advice is to stay away from her for a year, and see other people. IF you decide she's still worth it, then you'll have an added year's worth of experience with pickup, and a relatively clean slate to work from (just make sure you're prepared to run a BF destroyer in case). |
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shaggy2299
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If a girl says she wants space then give it her, if you don't she'll just go nuclear on you for not giving her space, I've seen this happen enough times to know the only route with any chance of long term success is to give them the space and plenty of it.
It sucks in the short term, especially if you really like her but it's the way with the best chance of success compared to not giving her enough space.
The best thing you can do if you really like her is tell her that you are there for her if she wants to chat but you understand she wants her space and you'll respect her wishes on that despite it not being what you want, but you want her to know that you care about her and she need only pick up the phone to chat. etc.
Then take a big breath and party on dude.. it may do her good to see you out and about partying with other girls, the jealousy may clear her mind but either way you'll either get over her and find a new girl or two/three or she'll come back and chat to you.. if she doesn't then you not giving her space wouldn't have changed that, chances are you'd have had some big fights and ended up hating each other because she felt closed in. |
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