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JackyKernels
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 Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 8:47 am Post subject: "Ill Get Back To You" (Shit Test) |
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Alright...theres this girl i invited to come out to watch a movie through SMS messaging..she was all like "sure yeah! gimme a call"... i later confirmed it with her in person..
the next day i ask which movie she would be down to watch.
She replied that she might be busy and will get back to me.
(Which of course, she did not)
i said "okay" and did not contact her about the movie when the day came and i went to watch with my buddies anyways.
..im not sure if she was trying to shit test me by being a "snob" to show that she is higher value than me and if i tried to contact her would lower my value..
instead, i still went and didnt bother contacting her, and that it was her loss for "forgetting".
What could i have done instead? and what should i do now? should i contact her and say something along the lines of..
"Yo! u got a short memory span or something? u forgot to get back to me!  , You totally missed out! its all good though...if you're lucky MAYBE ill invite you next time..."
or what do you guys suggest? |
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djay
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| txt seems alright, if it was me i'd leave it and go game some other girl |
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gravesRR7
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don't ask her why she didn't call you. that comes off as needy and emotionally reactive
instead, tell her that you went out on that day and did [insert fun activities with other people]
also, its generally better when you're gong 'out' with a girl, especially at first, to take the upper hand and decide where you're going and what you're doing. don't ask her what she wants to do. if she really wants to do something specific, she'll tell you |
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JackyKernels
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 4:55 pm Post subject: |
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 very true!
Should i just game on another girl than? and wait for this current girl to contact me back eventually...i doubt she will contact me, she is one of those really shy snobby spoiled rich girls. not like the big flirty talkative type.  |
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sabe007
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 10:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Leave this one in the dust and move onto another game. This ones done and dusted. |
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Papi Lindo
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I must respectfully disagree with any advice given that entails blowing off the girl. If she agreed to it initially, there was a point in time when she wanted to go and you merely want to recreate that scenario.
Personally, I would send the following:
"Awww that's cute, you're nervous..."
Also, at times it doesn't hurt to be direct. Not everything has to be Game, being genuine and not premeditated can be quite effective. Especially after you've built a some small comfort. |
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SLeven
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| When you got to the movies with a girl, i suggest not asking her what she want to see. remember, she is lucky to be in your company and not the other way around so be like, "were gong to see this" and if you want, you can ask her if shes good with that. |
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JackyKernels
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Yah i understand most pua concepts like keeping a higher value and what not.
to clarify i did not straight out asked her what she wanted to watch...i was to lazy to detail what really happened...
Basically it went down like this...
Me: have u seen [movie] yet?
her: is it scary? i dont like watching scary movies
me: what are you afraid of the dark still or something?!
her: yea i am scared of the dark haha i really dont like scary movies.
me: K well what then?
...and yeah thats basically what went down and then she was like ill get back to you. |
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JackyKernels
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She texted back finally and apologized because she was really busy blah blah, then she asked me to be her prom date in a couple weeks.
Fuckin' girl is messed or something. |
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complex
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1) I would not call her and give it some time until she called me..
Alright...theres this girl i invited to come out to watch a movie through SMS
You calling is an example of DLV
Asking her the movie she wants to watch is a DLV and turn off...You have to take charge..you have to be the alpha male..who the fuck is she? yes , shes beutiful but beuty is very common...your alpha...you pick the movie .. you pick the time good for you and if she wants she will join you.....dont settle for something just becuase it appears first
She replied that she might be busy and will get back to me.<<<< (obsiously .. you demonstrated low value , your were not direct
About the prom thing when she needed a date i would similarly punish her by saying ... " we will see how things go " that way you preselected because she will know even though she is hot , you dont find her to be the king of everything.In her circuity it shows your used to having attractive women in you life
BRO -- if you dont have it .. fake it till you make it  |
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tk750
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| complex wrote: | 1) I would not call her and give it some time until she called me..
Alright...theres this girl i invited to come out to watch a movie through SMS
You calling is an example of DLV
Asking her the movie she wants to watch is a DLV and turn off...You have to take charge..you have to be the alpha male..who the fuck is she? yes , shes beutiful but beuty is very common...your alpha...you pick the movie .. you pick the time good for you and if she wants she will join you.....dont settle for something just becuase it appears first
She replied that she might be busy and will get back to me.<<<< (obsiously .. you demonstrated low value , your were not direct
About the prom thing when she needed a date i would similarly punish her by saying ... " we will see how things go " that way you preselected because she will know even though she is hot , you dont find her to be the king of everything.In her circuity it shows your used to having attractive women in you life
BRO -- if you dont have it .. fake it till you make it |
Totally agree with you about the taking charge thing. Furthermore, I would move on and not spend too much time. Just give her the cold shoulder and then game other girls in front of her. That's my strategy. And if she really wants to come around, she'll approach you. |
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chrispb7
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| I agree with papi lindo. Bust on her about it like he said awww thats cute your nervous. Remember people are only emotionally reactive towards those with higher value or those who threaten our value. |
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Articulate
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| I think you made it a little bit to obvious, I would tell her the movie wasnt that good but that your friends were there, make sure one of the friends was a girl, and go into a DHV. |
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worm
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| Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 7:01 am Post subject: Re: "Ill Get Back To You" (Shit Test) |
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the next day i ask which movie she would be down to watch.
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... mistake! don't ask her what movie she would be down to watch. pick the movie and tell her to deal with it.
also, as soon as you called her you gave yourself DLV.... you need to give yourself DHV as soon as you talk to her on the phone. |
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