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gadget
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 Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 10:16 pm Post subject: Getting a Day 2 when she has a BF |
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Okay so I met this girl at a frat Halloween party, totally HB9, dressed as a sexy cop. I really got her interested and managed to dance, kiss (short though). Anyway, I've got this exchange going with her right now on facebook:
HB: heyy it's you (:
ME: My favorite super cop,  You still owe me a dance by the way. 
HB: i danced with you so how do i owe you a dance?
ME: That was hardly a dance. Will I see you around this weekend?
HB: probably (: which parties are you goin to this weekend?
ME: Tell me which ones you're going to and I'll have a pretty good answer to your question. 
HB: haha ok i'll let you know.
Okay so given her interest, I figured she was fair game, single right? Wrong. Not 5 minutes ago I found out that she set her facebook profile status to "In a Relationship" with some other guy indicating that she's taken.
Basically, I really don't feel like giving up on this one. I need a game plan to get her and to ditch him. This weekend there are plenty of party opportunities and such but I'm not sure how to pursue.
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snubby (aka Zen)
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A venue change or bounce would have been very helpful, had you known then what you know now.
But now it's now, so let's play with the cards you've been dealt.
She wakes up, thinks, "crap, what was I doing, my bf will kill me if he finds out." She quick changes her MyFace or FaceLift or whatever it's called profile to send you a subtle message, and now her conscience is clear.
Where does that leave you. Out in the cold. You would have needed to build major attraction to bridge the crap her logical mind is throwing her right now. Shields are up! Your best bet at this point is:
1) bump into her someplace when her bf isn't there and start from square one, knowing you'll have some initial resistance,
2) hope she actually gives you her party schedule (unlikely, but not impossible if the bf is a dud and she's looking for a replacement)
3) try to build attraction through texting/email/FaceLift posts. Not easy, but it builds a foundation for if/when you do bump into her again.
4) politely ask her bf if he minds you shtuping his girlfriend.
Ok, just kidding with #4. Anyway, it's a tough one. Maybe some others can pitch in.
Good luck. |
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gadget
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She told me where she'll be this weekend. I think I'll go for option #4.
Gadget |
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crodaddy
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| she's fair game... its not for you to find out that she has a bf... its for her to tell you that she has a bf and that she is off the market... so since she didn't say anything its fair game bro |
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Clancey
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It could be a plausible deniability thing. If you know she has a boyfriend then it's your fault if you get with her. She is saying, "I have a boyfriend, so can't be held responsible if you still want to get with me".
Just a theory... |
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White Belt
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i'm in a similar situation. she opened to me on myspace, then it was game on!! She invited me to a club later that week so I #closed her.
The club sounded pretty lame so I went decided to go to a diff. party...I read on her profile that she likes the outdoors so I messaged her with "you like outdoors...I got something that can challenge that". I didn't tell her what it is yet and we've been flirting like crazy, she's dying to know what it is. push/pull c&f, i'm putting all this shit to work (I'm a newbie btw haha) I'm just about ready to call and set up d2.
my newbie advice, think of something fun, tease her with it but don't tell her. make her work for it. Women are curious right? and they like adventure. be creative. |
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JJrepresion
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| Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 7:01 am Post subject: bf destroy pattern?? |
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did she ever mention her bf to u??? this she looked interested in u??? kiss close??? DUDE u are on the winning side! she doesnt really care! when a real girl cares she says "did i mention i have a bf " (not that its imposible to sarge it) however she didnt really told u that.
However dude... i thiiiiink that u looked quite needy in the conversation. Make HER want u... make her want u to want her. Thats quite the best tip a can give u. looks i would have said...
i will go to XXX! but my friends are so strange that maybe i will end in someother place. Where u going?
now u know the location.
ask her with who does she will go with
if bf then sorry... next time
if friends then... say : if i go there i will give u a call^^
in party.. SARGE EVERYONE!!  also her, make a good impression with her friends, dont look needy, CnF stuff and finally isolate and attack.
ask about her BF right before the FC just to tease ^^ |
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Introvert
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>Nov 3 2007
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alexle92
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| snubby (aka Zen) wrote: | A venue change or bounce would have been very helpful, had you known then what you know now.
But now it's now, so let's play with the cards you've been dealt.
She wakes up, thinks, "crap, what was I doing, my bf will kill me if he finds out." She quick changes her MyFace or FaceLift or whatever it's called profile to send you a subtle message, and now her conscience is clear.
Where does that leave you. Out in the cold. You would have needed to build major attraction to bridge the crap her logical mind is throwing her right now. Shields are up! Your best bet at this point is:
1) bump into her someplace when her bf isn't there and start from square one, knowing you'll have some initial resistance,
2) hope she actually gives you her party schedule (unlikely, but not impossible if the bf is a dud and she's looking for a replacement)
3) try to build attraction through texting/email/FaceLift posts. Not easy, but it builds a foundation for if/when you do bump into her again.
4) politely ask her bf if he minds you shtuping his girlfriend.
Ok, just kidding with #4. Anyway, it's a tough one. Maybe some others can pitch in.
Good luck. |
LOL I'm still laughing when you said facelift or myface whatever ROFL |
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Stetson
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| Quote: | | LOL I'm still laughing when you said facelift or myface whatever ROFL |
Well you have been laughing for a looong time then... Check post date  Medication for laughing issues? |
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gadget
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Okay, this is an update on this situation. I know it's been like 9 months or whatever since the OP but here's the sit rep. I DID meet her at at that party. It was pretty lax, just a bunch of friends and some guys playing guitar. Drank a little and just flirted. It was a really easy situation. I didn't pull any game BS, I just acted my nerdy self. I went back to her dorm room and made out. I was getting some indication that she was real nervous so I held back from anything more. I think if I did I would have gotten iced. Anyway, over a long break from school I kept sending her little romantic text messages and getting her to "miss" me. I ended up in New York that break, her home town, and hooked up with her there. This time it was different though. I didn't do anything, she just mauled me and pinned me up against the wall in the stairway of Webster Hall and showed me who was running the show. It was a lot of fun. I ended up hooking up with her on numerous occasions after our fling in NYC all while she was still holding hands with some oblivious chump. Now this is where her AFC bf came back in the picture I was a little appalled at myself for doing all this and after a couple months of trying to convince her to leave him (while I was still pinning her against the tables of empty classrooms), I became sick and f*ing tired of hearing her complain about him. So one night she called me and I just sort of snapped and said, "you know what, I'm sick and f*ing tired of gaming you. Just forget it."
And that was it.
Frankly, It was a lot of fun at first but as soon as I tried to continue, the more I just realized she was just meat. Just something that I could screw around with but didn't really like overall. Meh. 'least she was hot and the gettings were good. Since then I've dealt some better deals.
I'd say "Operation Day 2" accomplished about ten-fold. Thanks for the support guys.
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Stetson
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| Never, and I mean NEVER try to convince a girl to leave her boyfriend. And don't snap either . |
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Notify
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| Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 2:01 am Post subject: Hm |
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| OK so there is this book I read called Dateable and it pretty much explained that if a girl is willing to flirt with you, she will 90% of the time cheat with you. If she kisses you while she has a bf, you are more than likely going to f-close. |
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McBagel
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Maestro-Amsterdam
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If she knew that you were a FB freak & online & would be checking ur Inbox than changing her profile from single 2 been in a relationship within 5 minutes could mean only 1 thing in my humble opinion.....With 2 paths that come 2 my mind.....
1.She pawned off a friend & said 2 her ''friend'' she needed 2 pretend 2 be in a ''relationship'' on FB 2 get u off her back......
2.She really has a BF & decided that she clearly needed u 2 know about it....
In both cases she is probably in the ''buyers re-morse'' zone
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