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thatkidej
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 Posted: Sun Jun 15, 2008 11:13 pm Post subject: Eye contact.. |
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I've really been working on my EC lately, and I ran into a small snag.
I was in class, and there's a very cute girl that sits across from me. We made eye contact, and she wouldn't break it. I didn't want to look away and submit, but I didn't want her to think I was staring her down.
Maybe she was waiting for me to do something, but I was in class, I couldn't. So I smiled at her, then looked back at the teacher.
Did I make the right move, or what could I have done better? |
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meggisonj
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| I'd say textbook yes. |
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chadbaxter
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| Posted: Sun Jun 15, 2008 11:58 pm Post subject: |
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| yeah, that's fine. If you must break, end it with a smile. |
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christopherphilip
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Yeah sounds fine by me. When you smile, smile slowly "slow onset smile" which makes it appear more genuine and directed. If you smile too early or before she notices, it appears dishonest or "creepy". Some will say never look down, others say to look down. It's your choice, but if you want to send an attraction signal don't look sideways as in "I got caught stealing a look and now I must pretend to have been scanning the room".
If she was starring you down, she might be trying to send a strong dominant signal or a signal of disinterest. Depends.... |
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thatkidej
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| christopherphilip wrote: | Yeah sounds fine by me. When you smile, smile slowly "slow onset smile" which makes it appear more genuine and directed. If you smile too early or before she notices, it appears dishonest or "creepy". Some will say never look down, others say to look down. It's your choice, but if you want to send an attraction signal don't look sideways as in "I got caught stealing a look and now I must pretend to have been scanning the room".
If she was starring you down, she might be trying to send a strong dominant signal or a signal of disinterest. Depends.... |
Yeah, I didn't want to send any bad signal, I just kinda smiled and looked back at the teacher like "we should be looking at him, not eachother".
Is a wink too forward?
And about the domination, maybe I have a little dominatrix on my hands ahaha. |
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Okiokdan
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You did fine! If you want to submit, you will be looking down. Give her a deep gaze for about 3/4 seconds. Woman will get an intense feeling of it! You can approach her after class  |
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Nofear2051
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| If a girl u built real good comfort with and known her for a while cant hold eye contact for too long and is breaking it, what does it mean? |
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christopherphilip
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| thatkidej wrote: | | christopherphilip wrote: | Yeah sounds fine by me. When you smile, smile slowly "slow onset smile" which makes it appear more genuine and directed. If you smile too early or before she notices, it appears dishonest or "creepy". Some will say never look down, others say to look down. It's your choice, but if you want to send an attraction signal don't look sideways as in "I got caught stealing a look and now I must pretend to have been scanning the room".
If she was starring you down, she might be trying to send a strong dominant signal or a signal of disinterest. Depends.... |
Yeah, I didn't want to send any bad signal, I just kinda smiled and looked back at the teacher like "we should be looking at him, not eachother".
Is a wink too forward?
And about the domination, maybe I have a little dominatrix on my hands ahaha. |
If you see other signals of interest a wink can be useful to signal your interest which can help escalate attraction nonverbally. If she is not interested or there is not enough internal/natural attraction she will be put off by it (it's always the catch with women...sexual harassment is when a women receives advances from a man she doesn't find attractive) No harm in trying a wink, unless "she's the one" in which case you might play things a bit slower! |
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christopherphilip
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| As an add on, women will stare intensely at men as a signal of rejection. Usually, unblinking, prolonged and with a sneer (wrinkled nose). If she was smiling, it's probably not a rejection signal. Was she looking at you or past you? Was she daydreaming or where her eyes fixed on yours? You can read a lot just through eye contact. |
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jurupa
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| You should have also scanned her body with your eyes as well. That way she has no doubts you like what you see. |
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Okiokdan
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| christopherphilip wrote: | | As an add on, women will stare intensely at men as a signal of rejection. Usually, unblinking, prolonged and with a sneer (wrinkled nose). |
Don't agree on the first sentence. Agree on the second one. Men usually don't look deeply into womans eyes. Woman kinda test men, testing of they're confident enough to even look at woman eyes for a longer time. |
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christopherphilip
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| jurupa wrote: | | You should have also scanned her body with your eyes as well. That way she has no doubts you like what you see. |
This is true and a good point to remember. Intimacy happens when you check out the lower regions of a woman's body, chest, lips, etc. and not just her face or her eyes. Make forays only, don't stare and only when a sensation of intimacy is present. |
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GRKiller
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| Nofear2051 wrote: | | If a girl u built real good comfort with and known her for a while cant hold eye contact for too long and is breaking it, what does it mean? |
Hmmmmmm, that kinda depends. How much sexual tension have you built? And whats her personality like? |
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Infamous110
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| Stick out your tongue at her |
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