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DeToX
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 Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 10:32 am Post subject: Complicated isue with a girl.. |
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OK This is going to be a long story so i hope somebody would take the effort to read it..
two years ago i met a girl in paris all fun and stuff didnt kiss just exchanged phonenumbers and email.. i chatted with here for like 2 years and she is a very very complicated girl.. normally ill just think fuck her and move on but i just like her dont know why.. some stuff to let you know why she is weird
1. She says never to fall in love just once
2. She doesnt really like sex and never talks about (again you must think RUN dude but i just wanna show here sex can be fucking great  )
3. She like cant discuse here feelings
No im two years later and 2 weeks ago ive been there..(i know always try to get the girl to you but it just didnt work)
She was there with some friends and we had a good time a little boring but thats because her friends didnt want to go out.. We kissed but the feeling was a bit weird after two fucking years.. now were back home and she calls me a lot she messages me a lot and wants to talk to me only my problem is when im falling in love i wanna make TO much contact.. when is it TO much?? You guys have any good points about the whole thing ? |
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Nautorious
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the old me would tell you....
hey there might be somethign special there, you should really try and see where this goes! what do you have to lose anyway?
Without knowing it i made it my resolution to be a PUA this year... and it worked great, then i meet this girl at a club which i #close in 4 minutes, for some reason i thought she was the real deal, and i got back into being your rAFC which i'm with her. in the end it ended because she "wasn't ready to be in a realationship". Ironically enough i'd bet left kidney says that if i remained my PUA self during the relaitonship she would probably still be with me, but i fell for the "wow, you're really nice to me, you're different to everyone else i've dated and i really appreciate it". and just quietly she really didn't appreciate it.
long story short, recent experiences have shown me something... every girl is replacable... its really a matter of if you want to replace them or not.
In the end no matter what anyone says here, you're gonna do what you want. so hey... you can chose either:
1) continue to play the game with her.
2) turn the game off and see how far you fall and pray that she catches you.
as for me i'm gonna go back to PUA mode, i gotta say... it really does work. |
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frekinrican
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| lol sound just like me as well. well cant say the old me because I will start PUA today. If you notice I joined awhile ago and why did i just start now? because I got into a relationship that I thought would be forever. But obv. it wasnt. Fell for this twice with the same girl and the same thing is going on with my ex now. But as my teacher is saying it does help to game a few girls at the same time. This way if one fails hey you got a few more. Believe me game always. you think you'll meet the right one quit all this shit and guess what? it ends badly because she doesnt want a "relationship" |
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DeToX
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| you guys are totally right men.. and i wanna stay in ''gaming mode'' only my problem is i never went further to a real thing.. i had sex with a lot of girls but it was never the right one and now i have the feeling there finally is one and i wanna make her fall in love its not i just wanna make her have sex with me you know what im saying? and i just dont wanna fuck it up.. and the biggest problem is that she's just a little weird |
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Infamous110
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| Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 11:41 pm Post subject: |
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The game to me isn't about just getting into a girls pants.
It's about (essentially) opening a girl up to screen compatability much more acurately.
This doesn't mean that you won't end up in bed with more people, because that's also part of the screening process.
Humans (IMO) emotionally respond to resistance. Basically, you want what (you perceive) you can't have. If you push, you create friction and justify the resistance. You give something to push back against and you will get nowhere. One step forward, two steps back.
After two years you've probably gone deep into comfort and she's forgotten about any initial attraction - of course kissing would be weird. |
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DeToX
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| Infamous110 wrote: | The game to me isn't about just getting into a girls pants.
It's about (essentially) opening a girl up to screen compatability much more acurately.
This doesn't mean that you won't end up in bed with more people, because that's also part of the screening process.
Humans (IMO) emotionally respond to resistance. Basically, you want what (you perceive) you can't have. If you push, you create friction and justify the resistance. You give something to push back against and you will get nowhere. One step forward, two steps back.
After two years you've probably gone deep into comfort and she's forgotten about any initial attraction - of course kissing would be weird. |
Yeah its true the comfort goes really deep but i wanna make her fall in love.. but ill just keep gaming her like i always do and just try to not get my emotions in the way because thats what happends when i really start to like a girl and then i fuck it up! But thanks guys! great advise  |
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Senpai
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Ok... here is what you must do. REMAIN in the PUA Mindset. But, use distance and time to your advantage. It is actually very easy to get a girl to pine over you from afar.
BUT.... depending on your socio-economic situation, you need to get back there and see her ideally within a couple of months. And you need to fuck her. Only this will advance your goal of having her love you. When you go, you need to be forceful: "I want to SEE you ALONE. No friends. Just me and you, because I want to spend time with you alone. If this is not an option for you, then it's best I not see you at all during my trip to Paris."
That's the key for me... it seems like kowtowing to her friends instead of taking her out on her own was a very AFC move. I don't know logistically if it was possible to get her alone, but in the future this is a must, especially if you want her to "fall in love".
Keep in mind one thing: No matter what any PUA will tell you, you can't make someone genuinely fall in love with you. You can use PUA to DHV yourself and flip her attraction switches, but all of that is really just to demonstrate the power of the real you... if that is something a girl falls in love with, then it will happen. If not, it will be a lay and not much more.
Love is something far deeper than attraction. |
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Nautorious
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haha
so true... humans justify their lives but what they don't have.... prolly why we want (or atleast think we want) what we can't have.
If anyone did physics in highschool i think we can learn alot from Hooke's law of deformation (i think thats what it is)
people are like flexible pieces of metal wire. generally you can bend the wire and it will spring back, but past a certain point the wire is permanently deformed. People are much the same.. push them away, and freeze them out and they'll prolly come back, but take it too far and well... we know what happens
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the bitch comes after you with a meat axe! |
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Fred Astaire
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| I'm gonna have to check that out hahha, wish I did physics. |
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treliascapreywing
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| Posted: Sun Jun 22, 2008 8:52 pm Post subject: I need some help |
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So i dont have all my replys so i cant start a thread but i need help. this happens to me alot and its my biggest sticking point.
ill go out with a friend and his girlfriend and ill be in the back seat with one of her friends. i dont no how to open or a good routine cansomeone help me out thanks |
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DeToX
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 12:31 pm Post subject: Re: I need some help |
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| treliascapreywing wrote: | So i dont have all my replys so i cant start a thread but i need help. this happens to me alot and its my biggest sticking point.
ill go out with a friend and his girlfriend and ill be in the back seat with one of her friends. i dont no how to open or a good routine cansomeone help me out thanks |
Dude thats a whole different problem Just start reading some good ebook go to bitseduce or something and read some Mystery Method, Davix X, Hypnotica and stuff and you will learn a lot and then if you have questions to inprove your game ask questions but we cant like do it for you you know what i mean?? But be funny that has always worked really good for me..
On Topic
Thanks guys for all the repsonse i just stayd in PUA Mode and im doing really good with her only i started to loose my interest (thank god) wich made it a lot easier  |
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