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slyder2412
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 Posted: Thu May 15, 2008 4:35 pm Post subject: Does confidence superceed fluff/lightness |
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Hey guys what's up? Last night i went to a big college party where A LOT of girls were. I was feeling very confident all day probably because all conversations that day were more so in depth about psychology/philosophy/human nature and such. That being said when i got to the party ALL of the girls looked like "party girls" who wave their boobs around because that's all is really expected of them for attention, i mean it's so hot...but i honestly felt as though any approach i'd make wouldn't be light enough for this venue.
If i have the confidence in the way i talk...what i'm talking about..and good body language...it still didn't feel as though i could walk up to one of these girls and say "hey you look interesting, what are you about?" and actually get them hooked. Granted i DIDN'T try which is no excuse b/c i'd then have partly answered my own question. I thought maybe i'm just better at day game b/c when you approach someone it's not an immediate signal of "here's another guy trying to hit on me" which means that i could only appear more so interesting/unique by using routines/best friend tests(basically what party girls would think is fun shit). What do you guys think ? Is fluff talk simply a necessity in this environment or would confidence in preferring not to talk about the girl on stage who's top is about to fall off also hook a party girl?
I appreciate any comments! Thanks. |
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Madals
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| Posted: Thu May 15, 2008 4:51 pm Post subject: |
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I think it simply is because day game and club/party scene is SO different.
You cant go upto a girl at a part with music so loud u can barly hear yourself and expect to be able to hook her on "her thoughts on the meaning of life" or whatever. You have to be high energy in the night scene. Alternativly if that isnt your style you could always try the whole get in, impress get a number get out using a time constraint. Then go on a day 2 and show her what you are about.
Sorry if that wasnt what you were looking for, but thats my advice. |
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cranberry sauce
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Consider: play your game first. Then get to know the girl.
For you: apparently you want a girl with the ability to hold deep convos. There's really no reason that a chick at a frat can't hold deep convos...but save those convos for later.
Choose your target, throw some game, get to know her better later vise versa.
If you instantly go up to her and start talking to her about david hume and his rejection of the theory of design, she might want to kill you. In fact, so would I. No I would probably be down for a convo like that...ESPECIALLy at a frat party. Shit, a convo like that, we'd DHV the shit out of ourselves. Girls would look over: wow, i don't understand anything theyre saying, it's so mysterious, I WANT THAT! But you couldnt hold a convo like that with a chick at a club. Girls....have lesser brain capacity. They're all about... I don't know and that's why I'm on this forum. Now, I'm not saying I'm sexist, but I am saying that I'm sexist. I'm gonna be honest, living with "females" my entire life has given way to a terribly biast opinion. Fuck, I'm rambling. |
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HyphyMovement
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| yeah it kind of turns me off when you find out the girl isnt smart |
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