Should I message her on facebook?

Soloman5000 · Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 4:30 am Post subject: Should I message her on facebook?

So there is this girl in my class that has been giving me IOI's the entire semester. I have not had the chance to speak with her much. Either we would get stuck leaving class at a different time or we wouldnt be at class on the same days.

So anyways, I have talked to her maybe 3 times, just small talk, mostly before I found out about the "community/pua".

My question is, the semester is over, should I contact her through myspace?

RedMole88 · Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 12:35 am Post subject:

Dude, just do it. Have fun, bust her balls online. Just do it.

An d If you have'nt talked to her much...well change that, start talking to her.

No one will help you but yourself. So start making shit happen!!!

Invincible · Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 4:21 pm Post subject:

Well I'm new to this community I don't know all of your phrases and such yet, so I will just tell you my experiences from here.

Well I've tried this on facebook a few times and I can tell you about my experiences.

Pretty similar situations with regards to the IOIs but didn't really know the person that great.

The best response I noticed was I would give them sorta like hey how is your summer going mine is great throw in a DHV. In the initial message I found it more successful to not ask her to hang out or for her number or anything sorta like a non-threatening find out how shes doing and tell her how great you are doing.

You will almost always get a reply back for me 100%. Something usually like hey my summers going great, and blah blah blah

Now this is where I've noticed less success if I went sorta like we should hang out sometime, or whats your number lets do something or anything like that which is a big IOI from your part I wouldn't always get a reply back.

The best thing to do I've noticed is tell her about a big party or a bunch of you and ur friends going out or such (which hopefully you have something you can invite her to) and then invite her along. That at least for me got me a very high response rate and her number.

Then at the party just run game on her and its pretty much a lay up from there, you'll have good social value since you will know everyone and she won't know anyone and you have already recieved IOIs from her so its pretty much a lay-up from there.

-Invi

Soloman5000 · Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 4:35 pm Post subject:

Thanks for the replies guys.

The thing is im really confused now. I "poked" her on facebook and she has not poked me back. I dont see her having a problem adding random friends either beacuse she has tons of them and cannot possibly know all of them really well. Should I just send her a message sense she didnt "poke" me back or just freeze it out? Thanks again.

hutto · Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 7:19 pm Post subject:

part of the point of this 'game' is to try new things. you wana extend your knowledge then do it.try new stuff dnt follow others.

Clancey · Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 11:09 am Post subject:

'Poking' isn't going to get you anywhere, it's like saying "I want to talk to you but I don't know what to say so I'm going to do this and hope you make all the effort".

You should have messaged straight off the bat. You could try a message now, but she already has the upper hand by not replying to the poke and you messaging her again.

By the way, you mentioned freezing her out. It's not possible for you to give her a freeze out if she is ignoring you. Read some PUA material and get a basic idea of the framework....

MattJacks · Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 12:53 pm Post subject:

or maybe set a date (lowkey) with her. facebook her build a little attraction via facebook, get her number call and set a coffee date.

stereomuse · Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 2:57 pm Post subject:

yeah, poking is for someone you know well and already have a connection and flirt with. If your kind of just acquaintances then youre being a creeper. Ive never used facebook to actually pick up someone, i just use it to easily flirt with girls i already know. But i would take the advice of people on the board. do not just out of the blue, randomly ask her to a party. have a conversation first build rapport and have a connection. Once you've been talking for a while message her with something along the lines of,
"hey your pretty fun. im going to a party with some buddys of mine and you should definitely hop along..."

Stetson · Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 3:24 pm Post subject:

After few days from that unanswered poke I would throw something along the lines "You never answer to other people's pokes? Seriously, what are you?! Very Happy

-(Something that refers to you, for example: -The ugly trash-picker from your school)"

Thats just something what I could imagine myself saying in your situation Smile

.P.S I have never used facebook...

Invincible · Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 4:35 pm Post subject:

Poke was a bad idea its like so iffy. Cute girls get lots of pokes its like the AFC way of saying Hi I like you, PLEASE message and talk to me.

Freeze out wouldn't work because she has no interest in you so freeze out is like what you have been doing. use that more for like if u know she is interested in you and u either chased her to much and want to make her chase u some, or if she did something wrong u can use it as a punishment to make her chase u. ALso its used rather successfully after a break up when you know a girl still has feelings for you to make her realize the err in her decision.

As I said before forget that u poked her I don't know what you thought was going to happen, like all of a sudden she was going to reply to you and be like hey thanks for poking me I was thinking about you I miss you want to come over nad fuck.

Anyways Message her with something similar to what I posted before.

ANother option is to find out who from school is freinds with her and have them sorta invite her out to something that you will be at this summer like a concert or the beach and then Game her there, you can always get in touch with her indirectly if you have a mutual friend you can use.

But anyways stop over-analyzing it and do it, if you can mentally make it so you don't care about the outcomes of appraoching girls you will do much better because you will come off less needy, more alpha nad more like you could care less which means ur self confident.

Stetson · Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 5:33 pm Post subject:

You are now forgetting that the poking mistake has already happened. It would be really creepy if you poke her first, which she doesnt prefer at all and after that start asking about her summer... Seriously, I would make it more like a funny event, but thats just me Smile

Good luck.

Soloman5000 · Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 10:54 pm Post subject:

First off, I dont see how the fuck poking a girl comes off as creepy.

Secondly, I have caught her multiple times in class staring at me so she obviously likes me somewhat.

Thirdly, I poked her hoping she would poke me back, then I would start a conversation with her. This was something someone recomended and field tested on the site.

Im not a ugly nerd who comes to this website in hopes of becoming a MPUA. Im a guy who would just like to try out a different style of gaming. I honestly think that I could pick most girls up with simple AFC, which I have done in the past.

stereomuse · Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 3:55 am Post subject:

alright if you want advice, dont freak out on the people trying to help you. chill out homie. she obviously didnt like it since she didnt poke you back, when you hardly know her just puts you in the category with every other guy who wants to fuck her

Clancey · Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 9:25 pm Post subject:

Stealth7 · Posted: Fri May 23, 2008 5:09 am Post subject:

Ugly-nerd who wants to be a MPUA? Ha ha ha! What are you doing on this site if you already know how to game? Plus, you didn't make sense at all because 1) YOu said face book. 2) You said in the intro: do I send her a message on myspace? I think you're full of shit really, I see your posts and it's majorily in Field-Reports. Plus the Night Club 2 # closes-ha! That was pathetic. Listen, man-if you really want to learn the game and become better so you attract hotter babes. Listen to the advice; don't shove it in our faces. Got it?

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