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djay
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 Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 8:14 pm Post subject: Who Pays |
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i've searched the forum but can't find anything so i have to post this...my question is, according to all the books you get her to pay even on a day1. well i've been gaming a girl from the internet and we are talking about meeting up in just over a month....she has insisted that i pay for the meal and the best she is going to do is pay for herself lol....what course of action should i take?
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Fin
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neg her on being sexist about you paying and say she 's tightfisted.
That should work, I normally just pay my own way and have her pay hers simple as. Don't stress it or it'll seem unnatural. |
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djay
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 8:48 pm Post subject: |
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| thanks man trying it now |
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Killians
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| Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 3:11 am Post subject: Re: Who Pays |
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| djay wrote: | | she has insisted that i pay for the meal and the best she is going to do is pay for herself lol....what course of action should i take? |
Are you serious? She said that? She might be using you.
I would make her pay for her portion at least... |
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Honestly, on 95% of my Day 2s, the chicks are arguing with me to split the bill. Or, if we're doing an activity that costs money, pull the "I'll pay for this, but you're paying for burgers later." In my experience, works well.
If a chick INSISTED that I pay... NEXT! |
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d mid
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| Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 6:26 am Post subject: |
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| go c&f and say "ya know chicks usually pay my way, but I'm making an exception for you and letting us go dutch" |
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PrettyBoy41
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| it depends on what you're paying for. meals, dates, that kinda stuff, i usually pay for, altho i always ALWAYS mess up the tip. not on purpose, i suck at math and the 8% thing just doesnt work cuz i forgot how to find percents long ago lol. other things tho, ill usually con my way into getting them paid for by her |
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djay
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yeah she slipped it in this is what she said
her: so when you bk, may did you say or
will it be june
Me: im back in may, make sure you keep your diary
free...your taking me out
her: nooooooo you are takin me out
Me: ok but your paying 
her: ha ha jus cus i work
her: idnt think so mate
her: payin for what anyway where you takin me for
a meal
her: check out my picis on myspace im sort of
standin in some of them lol
Me: is you standing a great sight? erm, well what
kinda food do you like? then i'll make a choice by
disregarding everything u say
Me: 
her: huuuuuuuuuuh (shocking gasp) lol
her: jus take me where ever but i aint payin
Me: your coming to (my city) then
her: ofcorse
Me: (her city) that bad then lol
her: no you can come to my town if you want there s
the castle gate complex which has a few restaurants on it
and a showcase cinema
her: but i jus thought there would be more to do
in (my city)
Me: yeah loads more so you come to (my city), pay
for the food, i'll decide where we are going deal done.
her: NO
her: cheap arse
her: the best i will do is pay for myself and you
pay for yourself
her: but for a first date i think you could
atleast losen the purse strings alittle
Me: first date? who said anything about a first
date lol
her: well what would you call it 2 friends gettin
Together
Me: lol
her: such a guy where you takin me to eat then
Me: well i was thinking red pepers
her: love it there
her: my dad takes me there
Me: we wont go there then
her: why
her: i like it there we can go there i have made
my mind up
Me: well i aint so we can go to the slug
her: slug??
Me: slug and lettuce...you not heard of it?
her: jus cus my dad takes me there whats wrong
with you
her: red peepers is fine i aint eatin at no place
thats got slug in its name
her: i hate slugs, tenticle things sscare me
Me: you get scared by all small things?
her: tenticles is not a small thing in my mind ok
her: they are gross and slimy yak
her: we are goin red peppers
Me: so your taking me out now...
her: nooooooo your rakin me out i aint guna tell
you again alright
her: lol
her: takin*
Me: well your paying and i aint guna tell you
again ALRIGHT
she got disconnected at this point and so when she came back the topic moved on but she got back to it with
her: ok so have you realised the error of your
ways and are guna pay for dinner
her: thats what we was talkin about
Me: your just sexist...its equal opp's and all
that or r u just tightfisted lol
Me: we'll go half and half
her: yeh i can settle for that
Her: but you are buyin desert
Me: lol
Me: your so trying to get something for nothing
her: no you would have had my company that’s
Something
her: lol
her: what is takin you soo long
Me: lol
Me: im popular wat can i say lol
her: yeh ok lol im goin to bed now im tired but im
on lates next week so i might not et chance to speak to you
soo i hope you have a nice week and i hope you change your
mind and decide to pay for dinner.
her: xxx
so you can see how she is insisting i pay for it |
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 5:05 pm Post subject: |
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| You let her end the conversation first as well try to avoid doing that in future well done with the banter though maybe when you see her in person you can get her to pay who knows good luck dude |
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djay
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 8:55 pm Post subject: |
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yeah im tryin to stop that but i can't see a pattern in the tme she decides to go or say shes going if yo get what i mean...she just says it, 8pm 11pm its totally random. in fone calls aswel shes called me 2times i called her once, she closed the 3 convo's, i tired to make it clear i was going first basically said im off she said sumin else then says bye!!lol.
meeting next week as i have to go to a meeting with work so we'll see. |
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Killians
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DON'T PICK UP THE CHECK!
You should split it. If she is still interested afterwards then there is potential. If she doesn't speak to you again great you just got rid of a girl looking for a free meal. |
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djay
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| i plan on spliting the bill |
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| Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 6:40 am Post subject: |
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to get her to pay for it i say "you pay for this one and ill pay for the next one"
it gets her to invest and it sets up a day 2 |
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| i'll try that when we go to a bar before food lol |
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jok3rzwild
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Wow!
That was a sad IM conv. That I just read.
Whats with spending most of ur energy in trying to convince this stubborn chica to merely, simply, pay for herself.
What are you trying to gain from this chica? Does this type of girl seem like the ideal "fun" to you?
I have experienced something similar to this in the past, and on the date it was uncomfortable. Nothing was "natural" and conversation and the activities seemed "forced"
Lets get real here, the idea of simply just talking about who's paying. Is a Turn-Off. For both. |
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