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RedMole88
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 Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 6:52 pm Post subject: "Hi" anxiety |
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I'm having a problem lately: I'm not enjoying (or wanting) to say hi to people.
Every time I stumble upon a HB I know...I dont wanna say hello to her. I'll explain it like aproach anxiety with people I already know.
Happens with aquitances too.
Maybe Im afraid of feeling unconfortable, cause I've been modelling my social actions to be effective, since now I know hot to do things right.
In my opinion, it would help to know how to say hi to people in an "alpha" way, but any advice would be appreciated. |
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c_n12
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Have you been enjoying success or struggling with pick-up because you just may not feel the incentive to approach because you don't feel like there will be a payoff; I had this problem years ago.
- Chris  |
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RedMole88
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| Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 1:51 am Post subject: |
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| c_n12 wrote: | Have you been enjoying success or struggling with pick-up because you just may not feel the incentive to approach because you don't feel like there will be a payoff; I had this problem years ago.
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Noooo.....
I feel the incentive..is just that mi live is a never ending cicle between highly social periods, and poor social periods(when I can party, and when I have to study).
So when I'm in the second "downwards period"...and someone I know appears......I need time to switch into PUA mode....I dont know how to react.
I think that If I could figure out how a high value individual reacts in that scenario the problem would be solved.
How can I say hi to people in a cool way...without engaging in conversation with them? |
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White Belt
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I usually just make it some sort of game. First you need to pump up your inner game and make yourself feel good and confident. Smile! Work on body everything else should follow. Remember not to expect much, you're just saying hi so f- it. 9 out of 10 times they'll say hi to you back.
It's actually funny how you can catch some of them off guard haha and its a good way to experiment and figure out which body language, tone of your voice, eye contact etc. works for your approach. think of it as practice too. |
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djw1992
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From personal experience, I figure that a simple non-committal 'Hey, How you doing?' works great. Great because she can't accuse you of having an ulterior motive, and, since it's non-committal, you will appear higher value, so she will feel the need to prove herself to you. 
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Cloak&Swagger
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Sounds like an inner Game (self-image) problem. People have approach anxiety because they think they're bothering people when they approach them, it comes from a lack of self esteem because you see yourself as having lower value than them.
Examine how you view value. Do you see these girls that you know as being on a higher level than you? Why? |
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rott
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 2:51 am Post subject: |
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| Maybe you've lost your curiosity. Just say hi as an excuse to see how people will react. After a bunch of repetitive crap, someone will surprise you. |
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RedMole88
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| Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 5:10 am Post subject: |
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Thaks for all the feedback...but I've got over it.
I want to explain how, I owe that to the ones that helped me, So I'm posting about it soon. |
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